The Predator Within; a case of Jekyll and Hyde.
Hovering around, like a ghost in the shadows of the night is a new form of domestic violence. It’s cringe worthy to imagine that the world will degenerate to this lowest ebb.
A father seems to protect her daughter during the day time and preys on her under the cover of darkness. That’s the reality of world we find ourselves in today. A glaring reality that has come to live with us.
The issue of domestic violence has always focused on the abuse, physical or emotional, women are subjected to at home, most especially from their partners.
And just like a sun peeks from the horizon into the earth in the morning before sun rise, a new albeit more dangerous form of abuse has arisen.
Fathers now find sexual satisfaction under the warmth of their own daughters. Yes, you heard that right.
This trend transverses the width and breath of the earth, from the West to Africa.
According to Premium Times, in Lagos an incestuous father, a driver aged 56 years was arrested alongside his son, 21, a trader for having carnal knowledge of his daughter with the son who raped the helpless sister aged just 12. The mother of the victim was separated from the father before the incident.
Just a couple of days ago, Vanguard News Paper reported a case of a 38-year old man in Lagos, named Yusuf Oriyomi, a baker who sexually assaulted his 15- year daughter alongside his friend, Idowu Ayigoro, a carpenter aged 42. The offence according to the report was committed in 2012 and 2017, an exposition of 5 years of assault. The mother of the girl had travelled to the village when the incident occurred.
As if that’s not enough, Nigerian Bulletin reported a case of a 40-year old commercial driver, Ajayi Gbadegesin was brought to the Lagos State High Court sitting in Ikeja. The man was alleged to have had sexual intercourse with his 10-year old daughter for 18 months.
The victim reported that she lost her mother and was staying with her step mother in Agege area of Lagos State.
Unlike the other culprits who had denied the charges, Mr. Ajayi admitted that he truly had sexual intercourse with his daughter and attributed it to the work of the devil.
Buzz Nigeria also told a sordid story of one Mr. Okon Jimmy Amah, a mechanic and driver, from Akwa Ibom State who had repeatedly raped his two teenage daughters aged 16 and 13, without protection. Mr. Amah admitted to having carnal knowledge on his daughters at different time on the flimsy excuse that he was only attempting to check if the girl were still virgins. The man is married to two wives while the first wife and the mother of the girls is living in Benin City, Edo State.
In what would be like a climax, Premium Times also reported a case of an Ibadan based man named Ahmed Akintola who raped and impregnated his 16-year old daughter. The daughter was already three-months pregnant at the time of the report. The girl reported that the father had raped her on several occasions.
Leaving the shores of Nigeria and Africa in general, Europe and the United States have also had a share of their tales on the same issue.
The Metro, United Kingdom, once reported a case of a 30- year old father who raped his daughter ‘almost daily’ from the age of four . He was apprehended when the wife got hold of a video of him sexually abusing the girl inside their bedroom. He had abused the girl for over three years before the wife found out from a footage on his phone
While the one that would seem the gravest of all is a story as reported by Daily Mail, United Kingdom in what it described as “stomach churning historic sexual abuse”. A man named Keith Whitworth had sexually abused his daughter, Mandy Greenwood, now in her early forties for 20 years. The father had always told her that he did it out of love for. She had lived with that abuse through her childhood till she spoke out in 2015.
The Daily Record, UK tells a story of a Sick dad, Raymond Prescott, who abused daughter, Layla Bell for 20 years, and was jailed after she secretly records him bragging about having the ‘best ever’ sex with her.
The abused had continued right from when Layla was seven years old. According to her, she told her mother but she wouldn’t even look at her in what was an obvious guilt of the fact that she couldn’t take care of her daughter.
The story continues world over. Quite surprisingly, it still happens under our noses without our knowledge. What is common among all the victims of the sexual abuse we have chronicled above is the shame to speak out. Aside few courageous ones, most especially the ones reported from Europe, other were only able to talk about after the right circumstances presented themselves.
We will look at certain cause of sexual abuse at home.
Lack of education
When one gets quality formal education, the person’s thoughts patterns changes, one become more rational in every decision one makes and understands what it means to take responsibility. Lack of education most at times, especially in this part of the world, engenders poverty which we will discuss below.
There are certain factors that can engender poverty. We’ve talked about lack of formal education above. Lack of enabling environment for one to thrive in certain skills also is a contributing factor. When a man still struggles with the physiological needs, his psyche is affected. His rational mind diminishes and he resorts to external influence to stem the tide of such feeling of frustration.
Alcohol could seem to be a temporal relief from the harsh reality of situations as it blurs our rationality and gives us a fake confidence. When our rationality is smothered, one could be tempted to do something out of the ordinary. That’s when a man will begin to lust for his own daughter.
Dysfunctional Family Dynamics
This contributes more to the problem. The dysfunction could be seen from the daughter’s reluctance in approaching mother to complain about certain advances she is getting from the father knowing that the mother won’t believe her. The dysfunction is even more when the mother knows what is happening but still wouldn’t do anything because she is afraid to face the consequences of believing the daughter.
More dysfunction is also where the mother has separated from the father and the father has custody of the children. With poverty and alcohol, the father has only the daughters to unload his smothered sexual heat.
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