Reason Men Want Sex and How to Use it to Control Them
The effort spent in writing this piece will most certainly be attributed to some intelligent women who are not just close to me but have proven through their different endeavours that they are strong. It takes an innate strength to rise up to challenges ones faces, especially in a society where men are by default, conferred with certain prerogatives.
An informal discourse turned into a perfect idea to shed light on a normal phenomenon that has become a facet of reality in our everyday lives.
For a society to function optimally, there has to be interaction among every component part of that habitat. These interactions engender progress, innovations and development of the habitat.
And now, that same interaction results to procreation.
For that to be possible, there has to be interaction between a man and a woman.
Nevertheless, the primordial essence of that interaction isn’t just for procreation. I’d say and I stand to be corrected that procreation is the bye product of that interaction.
In the discourse with these ladies, a question came up. That’s same question every woman and even men themselves always want to know the answer to.
A lady asked “Why would a man sleep with a woman he doesn’t love just because of sex? That’s horrible,” she exclaimed.
Women rarely ask themselves why men change once they have a roll in the hay with them. The reason may not be far from a reality you wouldn’t want to come to terms with.
A man who was hitherto very chivalrous and gallant in his relations and attitudes around his lady has a most likely tendency to reveal his inner Jerkyl and Hyde once he’s tasted the cookie.
That’s because he feels he has conquered you.
He, as in most cases during the wooing period, became submissive, attended to all your needs and would endure certain discomfort just to get you submit to his advances. He would deplore all the strategies in his arsenal to have you see him as your knight in the shinning amour.
And suddenly after a night of nudge nudge wink wink, you’d wake up to a stark reality that the man lying beside you isn’t just as same as he who had nudged you on to drop your guard.
He didn’t just change. He despises you now!
That’s as brutal as it sounds.
When soldiers win a country in a war, they pillage, plunder and loot anything they set their eyes on. The same part of the brain that handles victory in war, handles success in courting a woman and having her submit to your advances. So practically, men see that as a victory.
And you know what happens when someone conquers you. They disrespect you, treat you with scorn and indignation.
And they are already on the look out for the next battle to win.
That’s just a man’s default make up.
Exceptions are there also. After all, nature is at our disposal to control.
Pitifully, women are blind to the latent powers they possess. These powers are subdued because women are always mostly pathetic, emotional beings.
Sex is a primordial impulse in a man.
In an article written by By Robert Kurzban, an Associate Professor at the University of Pennsylvania, he made certain salient points that would help us digest the discourse.
The major point we will focus on is the point raised which is critical from the title of the paper.
Sexual Economics: Sex as Female Resource for Social Exchange in Heterosexual Interactions.
The long grammar just said that men view sex as:
“A good(possession) females possess and that men wish to consume”
Did you hear that?
So when you consume that which you crave for, the law of diminishing marginal utility sets in. That which you had a longing for and whose longing you have satisfied becomes despicable.
Until another craving comes.
The theory has it that men will offer women other resources in exchange for sex but not the reverse.
The other part of the theory says that because sex is understood as scarce resources, it can be subjected to economic analysis, which provides tools for understanding how scarce resources are allocated.
The price of the apple is dependent on the demand for it and the quantity of the apple.
So this is the idea!
When you figure out what someone likes, use it to control them!
Now you’ve learnt what a typical man wants, let’s examine ways you can transmute that desire of his to your own advantage.
Like I did recommend in one of my interactions with a lady friend, men aren’t always rational when that desire gets hold of them. They mellow down like a cat who’s denied the cream. In that circumstance, wet his interest and tactfully withdraw.
Let him have a taste of victory, lead him on to a point where he feels he’s got you and then deny him of the victory itself. Make him feel he’s already exceeded his privileges and then withdraw and make the withdrawal dramatic.
At that time, you have weakened him. He’d do anything to have you on his side. When you get a man on his toes, he’ll keep fighting to regain that which he has lost momentarily.
Watch him drop to his knees and will promise you anything if you would just agree to have him have his way.
Of course you know you are not cheap or gullible either. If he wants what you have, let him pay for it.
Men desperately want women to love them unconditionally and always to support everything they do. Show him some loving when he’s behaving. DO NOT hesitate to give him the COLD SHOULDERS when he acts up. That will keep you afloat of his domineering nature.
Always remember this at all times: You are not cheap. A man who wants you should earn it. If tasting the cookie is a precondition, allow him go.
What you have is valuable. Do not be in a rush to give it out regardless of the pressure. If you consider yourself a priceless possession, any man who wants you must have to earn it.
To reiterate the bottom line.
Once you determine what someone wants, use it to control them.
And always say this to yourself,
I am not cheap.